It's all too easy to fall into a loop of negative thinking. Here are some empowering questions to ask yoursefl the next time you come to a crossraods between the negatives and positives.
Imagine. You're standing at the tee. your favorite driver in hand. You've got this, you know you do. Addressing the ball in perfect stance; you and your club are one.
Bam! You hit a fat shot from the tee on the par 3 and, as the ball sinks from sight in the pond, you see your chances of victory drowning as well. Suddenly, all of those gremlins begin chattering in your brain: You stink at this. You have no right to be here. It's just like the last time, stop embarrassing yourself!
Still, there is no other option but to grab another ball, clear your head, and get on with the game. Well, unless you choose to quit.
Whether in sports, relationships, business, or life in general we are destined to come to a crossroads from time to time. And that's ok, it's just a part of life. It's what you choose to do at those crossroads that matters. “Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ?I will try again tomorrow.'” — Mary Anne Radmacher
I believe that since entrepreneurs tend to take more risk, stepping out on a limb with new ideas and shifting directions as their market dictates, they see many more crossroads than the average Joe. And it's funny how often entrepreneurs tend to hold on to memories of a disaster and all of the “wrong” choices that led up to it. But when I ask them how they met the challenge, they've forgotten the powerful decisions and swift actions steps they took to remedy the issue. Just like the golfer is likely to hold on to the painful memory of that sinking ball only to dismiss their victorious recovery, entrepreneurs dismiss their wins all to often.
Falling into a loop of negative thinking is dangerous for an entrepreneur. Do it once and the habit can easily spin out of control. But you can stop those gremlins from creeping in if you turn your thoughts to what you've done right, rather than wishing you could turn back the clock. Here are a few empowering questions to ask yourself the next time you come to a crossroads and are feeling down about it. Keep the list handy and practice fi nding the good in these unwanted opportunities. The good is always present, sometimes you just have to dig a little deeper to find it.
Voice your answers aloud or write them down. It's easier to talk yourself out of feeling good if you keep the truth trapped in your head.
• When was the last time I felt like this?
• What were the choices I was aware of at the time?
• Did I make the best decisions I knew how to make at the time and that the circumstances would allow? (Remember, hindsight is 20/20!)
• What did I learn from this experience?
• Have I put those valuable lessons to work for me?
• Did anything that I now see as positive come from this experience?
• Can I forgive myself for the choices I now wish I hadn't made? (If the answer is no, please reach out to your coach or mentor to help.)
In short, acknowledge your feelings, look for the good, and forgive any missteps. Then, you will go far as an entrepreneur.